It is difficult sometimes, finding a company that absolutely resonates with you and getting turned down by them, or much worse; being ghosted and just never hearing back at all.
I say this as someone who over today was turned down for a job I love the look of, in a company I love the look of, with people who have been super cool right the way through, who seemed to be very eager to bring me on and whom I will definitely be pushing to work with in the future.
I’m trying to remind myself of all the advice I have given and received over the years for this exact situation, and figured I would write up a post – That way, future me can come back and look at this if needed.
A lot of people view rejections like this as a reflection of their worth. Even I’m doing it to some extent, the internal question of ‘How do I show hiring managers that I am a good deal, that I am value for money?’ is rolling around my head, but here’s the thing;
All of my recent rejections have been the same; the team has liked me, zero complaints, they have just gone with someone that has more experience. “But that’s a catch-22!” part of me yells. Yes, inner me, it is, and that sucks, but remember; The business of business is business. Sometimes it’s not about whether you could do the job better, sometimes it’s just that your competition is doing the exact job that they are hiring for *right now*.
Come on, you’re a project manager – Make a note of what you’ve learned. What went well, what went badly? What could you change for next time?
Are there any common themes in your rejections? If so, what should your self development priorities be?
WHAT ARE THE POSITIVES? – Often, people spiral into negative thinking. It’s ok to allow yourself the space to be upset, but this is also an opportunity to focus on the positive aspects – Look back over the past 10 years and identify how you’ve grown, the things you’ve accomplished. What beneficial aspects of the feedback can you take with you to the next interview?